So I started dating this guy in high school. I'm 22 now. Everything stayed of fine, we got along, standard high school love. We broke up a few times for high school reasons but always got back together. Then when I was 17 I cheated on him with another guy and he found out. He then became very possessive and violent. For 3 years I wasn't allowed to see anyone or talk to anyone except him or my immediate family. As a basically only child, I had no one but my parents to turn to. My dad was always working, and unaware of what was going on. My mother however was fully aware, but had always liked him. Every time we broke up she would convince me to get back together with him even though I knew I didn't want to. I was allowed to sleep over at his house at age 15 unsupervised, she chose him over my friends aka she would let him come over but not my friends. So on my 21st birthday I said something that he thought was wrong at the restaurant we were at and he started screaming at me in front of everyone. He grabbed my keys, even though he had been drinking and told me to get in the car or else he was leaving me there. There was no reasoning with him. He then proceeded to tell me that if I didn't change my attitude he would kill us both. I was so afraid. We thankfully got back to his shack trailer home alive. He threw me on the ground and beat me and choked me. I'm 5 foot and weigh 90 punds, he's 6 foot 2 and close to 170. luckily his best friend was staying with him and pulled him off of me. I sustained a concussion and bruising. I didn't press charges. I thought if I did that he would find me and hurt me or my family. It's worth mentioning that a year before that we got married under some circumstances. I went to lI've with my sister for a month. I also visited a boy I had a crush on while there and eventually moved in with him in Michigan. While I was away I found out that my mother was living with my husband and has left my father. I also find out that they are dating. My sister immediately writes her off and I do too for about 6 months until I move back home. She finds out I moved back and wants to see me. I oblige. All she talks about is him so I take her home and say I want nothing to do with her. She blows up my phone with questions like Why? And statements like "you can't help who you love". It makes me sick. She's apparently been in love with him since she first met him which was when he was 15. It's sick, and she's never been right in the head. She's tried to kill herself in the past and I'm worried he'll hurt her. I'm on speaking terms with her but my new boyfriend doesn't understand why. What should I do? He's a bad person, and I'm so so disturbed by this!! it sickens me to my very core that the man who ruined my life and gave me PTSD and anxiety disorders has also ruined my family!!! I wish I had a time machine to go punch 14 year old me in the face and tell her not to speak to him and maybe my parents marriage as well as my own life wouldn't have gotten ruined.